My
thoughts today is drawn on one particular issue that has been around for
centuries and now in the modern era, the mindset has still not change when
everything else has undergo revolutions. I am writing this as a Woman who has
always been conscious about the role of a Woman in the society, in business, in
politics, role of a wife in a household, role of a Mother towards her children
and what is being expected from them and whether what is expected from them is
at all fair and reasonable?
My
writing today is particularly in regards to what is expected from a wife and
what are the roles that men have set their mind to expect from a woman after
marriage. In Norms, and please don’t get me wrong here, by norms I means out of
10, there might be 1 or more to odd this out – but in norms, a woman is
expected out of her to cook, to clean, to wash, to attend to her husband’s
need and wants – sexual or non-sexual needs, to attend to her children’s needs
and wants, and in general make sure everything in the house is in order and
well taken care of. I mean.. really? I know a lot of man out there will be
cursing me right now and will be on their defensive mode.. but come on.. at
some point you guys know this is true.
I
am not ruling all the above expected roles out as I think it is okay up to a
certain level to expect woman to participate in an active role in a household
but my issue is, when Men is said to be the HEAD OF FAMILY, the BREADWINNER,
the IMAM in the family, the PROTECTOR, he is carrying a very High and Heavy
responsibility but this responsibility now is seems to revolve more on the
matter of bringing home cash, providing wealth, putting food on the table… it
is all monetary in value.. and in
today’s world, this is shared together with his wife. Nowadays, the wife is
contributing up to half (in some cases more) to the family financial fund. When
this is in fact in reality, why are the traditional roles is still being
expected from the wife??
Is
it fair to expect the wife to wake up early in the morning before her husband
and children wakes up, to prepare
breakfast, prepare them to work and school… when she has not been getting much
sleep due to late night dish washing, ironing the children’s uniform and her
husband’s work cloth and pleasing her husband in bed… AND when she has to go to
work herself?
If
this is the case, and in many cases it has been the issue, should the husband
start to stop and re-think their position as the head of family?? Should
carrying such title means more responsibility should be expected out of them,
more than their wife? Should they be the one who ensure that everything is
being taken care of and his wife and children’s well-being is his top priority?
This is what they know should be the right perspective but is it being
practice? Is it in reality being implemented? From my view, my answer would be
NO.
If
the wife can share her income? Why can’t the husband share the household chores
and be in control of all the family affairs instead of branching it out to the
wife and spend the free time watching football until late night with friends at
mamak or playing futsal on working night and be home just in time for a “semen removal” session and a good sleep
afterwards.
Be
A MAN by character.. Not just man by gender. Know your Resposibility. Know what is expected from you before expecting it from others...
Peace
;)
Lots
of LOVE.. DEE
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